I have to admit to being a bit of a loner. This isn’t because I’m socially awkward or weird, or anything like that, I can get on with anybody but I just like my own company. I have my close friends, and my family, but above and beyond that I’m just not that bothered about people! My fiance is similar.
So far, this is how our guest list is looking.
- My parents
- His parents
- My brother and his partner
- My sister
- His brother, partner and teenage son
- His sister, partner, teenage son, young son and baby daughter
- My aunty and uncle
- My uncle and his young son
- My nan
- My mom’s best friend (practically my aunty)
- My close friends and partners (7 altogether)
- His close friends and partner (8 altogether)
We are happy with just these people coming to the ceremony. I only want to share it with the people I am close to.
However, I’m not sure what we should do for the reception in the evening. We are thinking of a buffet and disco, but I’ve never been to such a small one. Would people dance in such a small crowd? But do we just start inviting random people we know to come along just to make the numbers up? If we invite some random people, will other random people be upset and there’ll be drama?
I am all about avoiding drama, so I also want to keep it small and quiet for another reason. I haven’t seen my dad, or had anything to do with his family for 16 years, since I was 10. The short version of the story is he’s a horrible man who let down his kids. I have no feelings for him, no desire to get back in touch with him, and I have an amazing stepdad who I think of as my dad. When I was in touch with my dad, he used to take us to our cousins house because my three cousins are a similar age. I loved playing with them. Last year, one of them tracked me down on Facebook. And invited me to her wedding. Now, don’t get me wrong, I think this is lovely, but I just feel awkward about the whole thing. My dad would have been there so it wasn’t an option really. I couldn’t go anyway. I feel that although they are trying to get to know me, there is an agenda - they asked me to write a letter to my dad and if I would meet up with him, etc. Now my other cousin is getting married next year, and again I’m invited. I am worried and thinking I will have to keep my wedding completely off Facebook, because I think they’d expect to come, and I would die of horror if my dad did turn up (he turned up uninvited to my 13th birthday party, but I got someone to ask him to leave before I saw him). My cousins, although sweet, often have Facebook drama going on and cryptic statuses about other people. I like an easy life, and don’t want to get involved in this stuff.
So - maybe I’ll just keep it as low key as possible!